Comments for Roguetech's blog http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress Videodb mods, PHP, Aspieisms, and whatever Mon, 05 Jul 2010 20:06:38 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.1 Comment on Relationship problems by Roguetech http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-163 Roguetech Mon, 05 Jul 2010 20:06:38 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-163 I'm not enjoying it. I’m not enjoying it.

]]> Comment on Relationship problems by Bob http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-161 Bob Sat, 03 Jul 2010 02:51:06 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-161 Hope you enjoy being single. Hope you enjoy being single.

]]> Comment on Relationship problems by Roguetech http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-160 Roguetech Sat, 03 Jul 2010 01:25:14 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-160 The only issue that I have been told of is that she expects me to never disagree with her, and that everything I say, she must agree with. As you said, no one can be told that they can't have their own opinions, but that is exactly what's happening. The issue with petting the cat is a reflection of that, in that apparently I'm not allowed to be annoyed once in awhile. The ball is in her court as to whether she is willing and/or able to allow me my opinions. As for any other issue, she can either mention what it is, or continue to expect it to resolve itself. The only issue that I have been told of is that she expects me to never disagree with her, and that everything I say, she must agree with. As you said, no one can be told that they can’t have their own opinions, but that is exactly what’s happening. The issue with petting the cat is a reflection of that, in that apparently I’m not allowed to be annoyed once in awhile.

The ball is in her court as to whether she is willing and/or able to allow me my opinions.

As for any other issue, she can either mention what it is, or continue to expect it to resolve itself.

]]> Comment on Relationship problems by Bob http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-159 Bob Sat, 03 Jul 2010 00:31:16 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-159 4. YES!!! You really are that stupid aren't you? If one person is over it in 3 seconds and the other is't over it in 3 weeks, THEN YES THERE IS AN ISSUE THERE!!!!!! An issue you are obviously blowing off as trivial. Do you really think the pizza, the stomping, or the cat is the real issue? Surely even you aren't that dense. Everyone has their own opinions and no one told you can't have your own nor that it has to agree with the majority, minority or anyone elses. Just realize that your opinion carries no more wieght nor is any more correct than anyone elses. If yours is valid then there is a chance someone else's opinion is equal valid whether you agree with it or not. 4. YES!!!

You really are that stupid aren’t you? If one person is over it in 3 seconds and the other is’t over it in 3 weeks, THEN YES THERE IS AN ISSUE THERE!!!!!! An issue you are obviously blowing off as trivial. Do you really think the pizza, the stomping, or the cat is the real issue? Surely even you aren’t that dense.

Everyone has their own opinions and no one told you can’t have your own nor that it has to agree with the majority, minority or anyone elses. Just realize that your opinion carries no more wieght nor is any more correct than anyone elses. If yours is valid then there is a chance someone else’s opinion is equal valid whether you agree with it or not.

]]> Comment on Relationship problems by Roguetech http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-157 Roguetech Fri, 02 Jul 2010 19:13:08 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-157 1. Because, for most people including myself, there is a difference between being annoyed and blowing up. 2. Excellent point. If I had been showing disdain, I would have made a mess of the pizza, which I didn't. 4. Part of everyone is an asshole. Hypothetical question... If someone becomes annoyed, has a short arguement, and gets over it in a matter of minutes, are they being an ass? If someone annoys someone else, has a short arguement, calls the other person an asshole, remains pissed for hours, and holds it against the other person for weeks, would they be an ass? It is her that has chosen to assign fault, because she has a need for others to agree with her. Unfortunatly, I am not one who will neither change my opinions simply to match anothers, nor express opinions I do not believe. You (and she) can believe I am an ass, but no matter how much I care, I will continue to have my own opinions, nor countenance any suggestion that I have no right to those opinions. 1. Because, for most people including myself, there is a difference between being annoyed and blowing up.
2. Excellent point. If I had been showing disdain, I would have made a mess of the pizza, which I didn’t.

4. Part of everyone is an asshole. Hypothetical question… If someone becomes annoyed, has a short arguement, and gets over it in a matter of minutes, are they being an ass? If someone annoys someone else, has a short arguement, calls the other person an asshole, remains pissed for hours, and holds it against the other person for weeks, would they be an ass?

It is her that has chosen to assign fault, because she has a need for others to agree with her. Unfortunatly, I am not one who will neither change my opinions simply to match anothers, nor express opinions I do not believe. You (and she) can believe I am an ass, but no matter how much I care, I will continue to have my own opinions, nor countenance any suggestion that I have no right to those opinions.

]]> Comment on Relationship problems by Bob http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-156 Bob Fri, 02 Jul 2010 14:34:47 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-156 Wow, you ever re-read what you write? This whole thread is your "reasoning". It doesn't make any logical sense to you therefore it is invalid. So John Michael. 1. If you didn't blow up then why, by your own admission in post #4, did you stomp, stomp, stomp? 2. Distain would be stomping off to the kitchen and quit literally throwing the pizza in the oven, which I'm sure you were very gentle with instead of playing with the kitten as was originally suggested. And then making a scene of it as well. 3. Someone is full of it. Sherri says several times she told you. Whether you listened or not can not be discerned. Having known you your entire life, the benefit of the doubt goes to her. What does that tell you? 4. Part of who you are is an asshole. Get over yourself. You don't have to win every conversation. Every conversation isn't a debate. Hide behind your Assbringer's if you like, hide behine "it's who I am" if you like, hide behind "assign your fault" if you like but in the end it will be you that is alone yet again. Hell, just look at your closing statement for a moment... "appropiate that you be the one to wrestle". Her fualt. "Over your own fullfilment". It's all her, her, her. "Your need for someone to be right". Yep, more her, her, her. "Assign your fault,...and let me know." Wow, you're pulling out all the stops to work on *YOUR* (plural) relationship. At best, that statement implies you are a disinterested party and if you're not busy or other wise inconvienced at the time, you might consider caring. Wow, you ever re-read what you write? This whole thread is your “reasoning”. It doesn’t make any logical sense to you therefore it is invalid. So John Michael.

1. If you didn’t blow up then why, by your own admission in post #4, did you stomp, stomp, stomp?

2. Distain would be stomping off to the kitchen and quit literally throwing the pizza in the oven, which I’m sure you were very gentle with instead of playing with the kitten as was originally suggested. And then making a scene of it as well.
3. Someone is full of it. Sherri says several times she told you. Whether you listened or not can not be discerned. Having known you your entire life, the benefit of the doubt goes to her. What does that tell you?
4. Part of who you are is an asshole. Get over yourself. You don’t have to win every conversation. Every conversation isn’t a debate. Hide behind your Assbringer’s if you like, hide behine “it’s who I am” if you like, hide behind “assign your fault” if you like but in the end it will be you that is alone yet again.

Hell, just look at your closing statement for a moment… “appropiate that you be the one to wrestle”. Her fualt. “Over your own fullfilment”. It’s all her, her, her. “Your need for someone to be right”. Yep, more her, her, her.

“Assign your fault,…and let me know.”
Wow, you’re pulling out all the stops to work on *YOUR* (plural) relationship. At best, that statement implies you are a disinterested party and if you’re not busy or other wise inconvienced at the time, you might consider caring.

]]> Comment on Relationship problems by Roguetech http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-150 Roguetech Wed, 23 Jun 2010 20:19:38 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-150 It is appropiate that you be the one to wrestle over your own fulfillment of your need for someone to be right and someone to be wrong. Assign your fault, decide who is right and wrong, and let me know. It is appropiate that you be the one to wrestle over your own fulfillment of your need for someone to be right and someone to be wrong. Assign your fault, decide who is right and wrong, and let me know.

]]> Comment on Relationship problems by Sherri http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-149 Sherri Wed, 23 Jun 2010 20:11:54 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-149 after writing and erasing and writing and erasing, I guess the most effective thing I can say is "whatever". No sense arguing with you as, in your mind, I am always wrong about everything and you are always right about everything and nothing will ever change that. after writing and erasing and writing and erasing, I guess the most effective thing I can say is “whatever”.
No sense arguing with you as, in your mind, I am always wrong about everything and you are always right about everything and nothing will ever change that.

]]> Comment on Relationship problems by Roguetech http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-148 Roguetech Wed, 23 Jun 2010 19:52:59 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-148 1) "Since I'm up, I might as well put the pizzas in" stomp stomp stomp 3) No you didn't. You went to bed without saying a word. I know of no other way to interprite that other than you did not wish to speak to me, and did not want me to join you. It is you who wishes to assign fault. If you read through everything I've written, I have not assigned blame. The only thing I've said to suggest blame, is in you knew I was helping my mother, and only now have you stated you were not aware I was busy. Assigning fault is not a constructive thing to do; however, consider whether a person who accepts their own responsibility has any need to blame others.... 1) “Since I’m up, I might as well put the pizzas in” stomp stomp stomp
3) No you didn’t.
You went to bed without saying a word. I know of no other way to interprite that other than you did not wish to speak to me, and did not want me to join you.

It is you who wishes to assign fault. If you read through everything I’ve written, I have not assigned blame. The only thing I’ve said to suggest blame, is in you knew I was helping my mother, and only now have you stated you were not aware I was busy. Assigning fault is not a constructive thing to do; however, consider whether a person who accepts their own responsibility has any need to blame others….

]]> Comment on Relationship problems by Sherri http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212&cpage=1#comment-147 Sherri Wed, 23 Jun 2010 19:06:28 +0000 http://www.roguetech.org/wordpress/?p=212#comment-147 1) well, then I might as well put the pizzas in myself followed by you knew I was working on something for my mother!!!!! stomp stomp loud loud 2) I didn't ask you to put the pizzas in and I called you an asshole for being mean about it & going off on a two year old temper tantrum about how I knew something that I couldn't possibly know. 3) yes I did. I told you multiple times I did not know you were working on something so important for for you mother to which you insisted that I did. multiple times 4) being unkind and quick to anger is part of who you are? nice I dont want to be left alone. I never indicated that I did. you may put your own John-spin on it, but I never did. I would rather be alone than be yelled at so given the two alternatives, I'll take alone. All of the above that you wrote indicates that nothing is your fault, you take no responsibility for it, just as I knew you would. 1) well, then I might as well put the pizzas in myself followed by you knew I was working on something for my mother!!!!! stomp stomp loud loud
2) I didn’t ask you to put the pizzas in and I called you an asshole for being mean about it & going off on a two year old temper tantrum about how I knew something that I couldn’t possibly know.
3) yes I did. I told you multiple times I did not know you were working on something so important for for you mother to which you insisted that I did. multiple times
4) being unkind and quick to anger is part of who you are? nice
I dont want to be left alone. I never indicated that I did. you may put your own John-spin on it, but I never did. I would rather be alone than be yelled at so given the two alternatives, I’ll take alone.
All of the above that you wrote indicates that nothing is your fault, you take no responsibility for it, just as I knew you would.

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